Yes, SO is pretty wretched. That opinion is shared by a lot of developers, perhaps even a majority since 2019.
My world view is that Sturgeon’s Law is true and explains everything. The name and history of Sturgeon’s Law is proof that this attitude isn’t uniquely mine. And I know my expectations are realistic because there are plenty of things that meet and exceed them.
I’m literally planning to spend a year writing a better ERP system.